Proverbs 20:5 (NIV)
“The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”
People would like to think they know us deeply and know what is in our hearts and in our minds, but often we question what they think they know of us. People would like to say they understand our struggles as LGBT individuals. People would like to consider themselves experts in the psychology of what it is to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, or transgender– and maybe some might have some basic or general ideas on the subject. But unless they can walk in our shoes and experience as we have experienced, it is difficult at best for many to claim to know us as we know ourselves.
One thing is for certain though, God knows us. And He knows where we stand on the issues that affect us deeply. He also knows our struggles as well as our triumphs. There are forces at work greater than us directing many of the events of our lives and watching and interceding as He will, is God.
But a wise and patient person who listens more than he or she speaks can learn from us and begin to understand more than one who simply speaks but seldom listens. And sometimes to understand ourselves we have to shut up once in a while and listen too and pay more attention to the world around us– including the people around us. The things people say to us and about us can reveal why people might hate or love us. We need to be mindful of the anger that stems from fear and ignorance and do our best to be patient and kind and approachable. Often when people get to know us through conversation, the source of fear dissipates. And when people tell us they love and care about us, we need to listen all the more and internalize that we can be loved and respected and we are welcomed. Sometimes we take our friends for granted or sometimes we assume that no one really cares or loves us or understands us… we all need to be wise and listen and show patience with each other– then we can better understand what our hearts are trying to say.
And as for finding purpose in life? As to finding our calling and inner purpose for being? The same rules apply. Listen to what is being asked of us from those around us. Listen to your inner voice. Listen to the needs of those around you too. Sometimes the answers are staring right there at the end of your nose.