On the Subject of Fear

Never let fear of others’ evil dictate the good you can do.

Never let fear of failure keep you from trying to succeed. Success only comes from trying and doing. You cannot succeed at something if you do nothing.

Never let the wrongs people do to you keep you from doing the right things for others and for self.

Fear can warn us of danger.

Fear can help us avoid danger but it cannot help us overcome danger. Only wisdom and courage can help us overcome danger. God can grant us that wisdom and courage.

Facing fear is not the same as rushing into danger and risking one’s life to overcome what could kill us. Facing fear is having the wisdom to know that you have power to live as full a life as possible.

You may be afraid of bullies, harassment, violence, discrimination, hazing, conflict, and any number of things that could harm you. These are reasonable fears. Yet what is not reasonable is having to live in fear of living. What is not reasonable is to be a slave to bullying, violence, harassment, and discrimination. To face these fears, you will need to stand up to bullies, gather with others and fight discrimination and harassment. You will need to have the wisdom to walk or run from violence and never feed the flames that would provoke someone. Have the courage to walk away and say to yourself, “Not my monkeys, not my zoo.” You can do better than to let someone try and antagonize you. You deserve more than the insanity and stupidity and intolerance of others. If they want to pull you into their circus of dumb, walk away from it.

Build your support system of friends and family. Be active in the LGBT community. Find your allies. Be an ally to others. Get hooked up on social media like Facebook and look for LGBT Support Groups and arm yourself with the resources that can best help you deal with fear, anxiety, depression, dysphoria, and discrimination. Get the hotline numbers for GLAAD, National Transgender Law Center, the ACLU, Trevor Project, True Colors, and others. Never think you are alone! You are not alone. There are many resources! You have to do your homework and look for these outlets and make use of them!

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About Rachel Conlin McLeod

Transgender activist, Christian at First Baptist Church in Willimantic, Connecticut. B.A. in History and Social Sciences, B.A. in Sociology Freelance writer, tutor, research assistant Loves hockey, ballet, women's gymnastics, and Bible studies.
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